Actually this question was asked by Aloysius which inspired me to write this blog.
Yes we can we can progam our mind to think in a particulatr fashion.I derive this from a concept of "Paradoxical intentions" mentioned in the book "Man's search for Meaning". An awesome book for how bad a life can get and how you can derive a meaning to life and hence happiness.In the book, experiences of concentration camp detainee is mentioned. Life can only be miserable there right? Wrong. The book talks extensively about that.
The following is how I derive my thought.
1. Every action has a result - Success or Failure.
2.Both these results are are how we JUDGE them.
3.If we cheat ourselves into judging them different then we can categorize even a failure as success.
Some examples :
1.Searching for a job and hope to get it in 1 week - Success( Got a job) or Failure ( Did not get a job )
Now applying the above logic - Success(Got a job ) or Failure( spend another week to hit the gym and lose that extra weight). This example was I personally experienced because I was in between I spent my time learning swimming.By job search was stretched by 3 months but at the end I had a job and knew swimming.
2.Looking to get married - Success( found a spouse) or Failure ( could not find the right one )
Now applying the above logic - Success is of course define or Failure ( enjoy your bachelor hood). Save more to buy things for the house you need after marriage.
In short if we can re-program our mind into not judging results negatively we can be at the least be neutral if not happy.
7 comments:
Interesting thought. I think we can try to apply this in all cases and see how it goes, it will be an interesting experiment. Actually being Neutral is tougher than being happy or sad. Tell me, can you be neutral if you win a million dollars? Wont you jump up the sky and call up to find out if you can buy your native town?
hmm.. well i used to believe like tht.. but some point of time.. u just cant sit and think abt positive stuffs when something bad happens..
BTW one thing is for sure.. whatever happens... life goes on till till you die... :)
maduraiveeran,
yes defintely I would be happy. But I want to try for more the failure cases.
Aloysius,
I can understand your tough position but looking at +ve stuff just give you that energy to get out of the rut.
I know it is so easy to talk but when you are in shit it stinks all over and general +ve thinking won't make it any pleasant.
something related to cheer you up. http://contraviewer.blogspot.com/2009/06/being-in-shit-doesnt-mean-bad.html
Take it easy!! :-)
yeah i ve read tht mgt lesson a lot :) I guess we are in a phase of world we cant be disappointed for more than a day or so... caz u have 100's of things to do and ones they start hitting u and u start concentrating on that u loose the bad feeling..
but u certainly need some time to cope up from that bad feeling... u need to cry it out or shout it out sometime or the other.. :)
Kumaran:
You are finding the positive in things that happen to you, which is G-R-E-A-T! Way to go, Kumaran!
Lucky B,
Thanks for the comments
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